Group on Signal Hill

Group on Signal Hill
Back row: Avery, Kelsey, Ainsley, Patrick, Wylie, Erin, Ethan, Janiel, Larissa: Third Row: Tekowa, Anna, Audrey, Jerard, Andrew, Carl, Allie; Second Row: Elise, Aimee, Vara, Carolyn, Melissa, Morgan, Liz, Erica, JR; Front Row: Savitri, Brianna, Sharon, Lindsay, Andrea

Welcome to Our Blog

WELCOME TO OUR BLOG

As anyone who has participated in this program will attest, there are no words or pictures that can begin to adequately capture the beauty of the scenery or hospitality of the people in Cape Town. Therefore, this blog is merely intended to provide an overview of the program and a glimpse at some amazing adventures and life-changing experiences had by the students and staff of this program who have traveled together as co-educators and companions on the journey. As Resident Director and Faculty Advisor since 2008 it has been a privilege and honor to accompany an incredible variety of wonderful UConn students to a place we have all come to know and love.

In peace, with hope, Marita McComiskey, PhD


11 March 2013

Andrew on coping with death


In my third blog post I talked about my first patient encounter in the burns unit—the patient who had been burned on 86% of his body.  Since that time, he was making a miraculous recovery.  Two weeks after the operation he made it out of the ICU and was moved to the burns unit.  He started making progress and started to communicate—he started to yell in pain when the three doctors, two nurses, and myself changed his dressing every day to prevent infections.  The worst part (for him and myself) was when we pulled off the last layer of dressing—that was when he really shrieked.  After we would change his dressings, I would try my best to make sure that his back was rubbed because he was always itching.  I would feel terrible leaving him for the day but would always tell him in Xhosa, “I’m right here for you, see you tomorrow.”

One Monday morning, I walked in and he was trying to tell me “I missed you this weekend,” (in Xhosa).  That struck a chord in me.  For the rest of the week he would call me, by yelling Bhuti (the Xhosa word for brother), whenever I passed by his room or when he was in pain during his dressing changes.  He became my pride and joy when I went to work everyday, always making sure that every one of his needs, which were immune to language barriers, were taken care of.

The next week during his physiotherapy and occupational therapy session I asked the physio how long it would be until he started walking.  She said, “Hmmm…probably four weeks.”  Four minutes later I turned around and he was dancing, shaking his hips and he walked all the way to the dressing changing room.  I’ve never been this close to balling in joy in my life.  I knew that he was going to be a champion, a survivor.  The next day we took him out for a stroll in a wheel chair.  That was the first time he’s seen grass or Table Mountain in over two months.  During our stroll we played music for him and bought him a Coca-Cola which he inhaled and I could hear his happy little burps of satisfaction.  He dreaded having to go back inside and wanted to be put in a chair—he didn’t want anything to do with the bed.

Over the last two, we cheered for him as he fought off infection after infection.  But last Monday we knew something was wrong.  His entire eye was glassy (and would not be able to see for the rest of his life)—he had a systemic infection that would not work with any anti-biotic. When I left on Wednesday for the weekend, I said a quick goodbye to him—not expecting to never see him again—and that I’d see him on Monday…but he looked sick…he wasn’t even complaining.  Early Friday morning he passed away after two cardiac arrest resuscitations.  I’m happy I was not there for that.  I found out Friday at 5 pm as I was leaving to Friday night services and ran into Prof Rode leaving the hospital.

I am grateful for finding out before I came into work on Monday and for being able to cope with his death during the prayers I said for him.  I kept thinking back on what could have been done better or if we did anything to prevent this last infection from killing him.  After having a good cry, I think I got over it—mostly.  I think bringing him outside was the best thing for him—he at least was able to die in dignity and kept in a box for his last two months.  I will always remember him as the champion boy—the one who fought against all odds (dead family, the multiple surgeries, the multiple infections he fought off, etc)—and as the first (long term) patient of mine who died.

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